Nov 17 2009
Mom, Dad, Please Don’t Be Silly!
People often understand about parents’ cry when their children mess up their parents’ life. But I almost never hear that people will understand about children’s cry when their parents mess up the children’s.
What would you do when your parents ill? A friend of mine, just call her name Fredlyn, recently has been complaining. Her old man sounds been sick. It’s not really bad, probably some kinda obese and arthralgia. But I assume that’s disturbing. Obese makes people lazy. And the joint-ache has been troubling that man from moving his arm.
Gosh! And now they keep me from emping?! Photo from http://telegraph.co.uk
According my colleague who cured him, the dad should stop eating purin. And quit smoking. Fredlyn has been helping to limit the diet at home. But the dad got furious, coz he felt been restricted from delicious foods.
As a doctor, I saw Fredlyn might’ve misunderstood about the diet. Actually it’s not about fully restriction from delicious food at all, but it’s just necessary to decrease the portion. But the big problem ain’t Fredlyn. The error point is her dad denies from making up the menu and quitting from cigar.
Fredlyn’s effort to treat her dad has been obstructed since last week the dad declared to quit the therapy. Briefly, the dad gave up from recovering. Fredlyn cried.
I understand what made Fredlyn sad. There’s no children who are happy to see their parents ill. That’s why children always try to keep their parents fit. The problem is, the parents decline healthy life.
People wants to get old in laugh, instead of mourning. Photo from http://todaysseniornetwork.com
I’m sure that Fredlyn ain’t the only one. There are lotta other children suffer coz their parents make too much scene. My mom has been sad coz her mom (my grandma) has been furious if her children (my mom, my uncles, and my aunts) are not around her at 10 am, though it’s office hour. My dad’s been upset coz his mom sacked an housekeeper that we sent for her, though without the housekeeper my grandma won’t be able to clean up the house well. I’ve been also mad at my dad coz recently he didn’t wanna quit snacking chips at midnight, ignoring the fact that he’s diabetic.
We, the children, wants our parents reserved, fit, and being understanding. But parents refused from listening to the solution that we create. Meanwhile, they can’t give better solution for their own good, either. In fact, since Fredlyn’s dad got ill, all he’s been doing is just grousing her around. My mom’s mother has been frustrated of loneliness, that makes her often phoning her children’s office, only to call them home. Last week someone stupid has broken the water pipe at town, made the PAM must switch off water from streaming to houses. That made my grandma had to bail the well alone coz she had sacked the housekeeper. And now I should insulinize my dad. Briefly, when parents mess up, that’s when children are annoyed.
Stay young, stay fit. Being old is about age, instead about mental. Photo from http://divaasia.com
If only children are disaffected, they should’ve been yelling, “Mom, Dad, please don’t be silly!” Parents don’t wanna understand, as they ill, children gets troubled. It’s hectic, and it’s sad. Parents may say to the children, just mind their own business, no need to care about parents, at least parents will die coz they’ve been aging. They never care that as parents die, children gets sad coz nobody will pray for them anymore.
I understand, as someone gets old, problems come up. There’s degradation of organ system’s function at body. There’s degradation of ability to keep their selves from accident. There’s degradation of ability to thinking. But after I saw lotta people start to grouse much as they get old, I’ve started to wonder, as we’re getting older, is there any degradation of mental to be a good person, too?
More aging a person is, then more getting sucks the person becomes.
And I don’t wanna be like that.
Please enjoy your single stage. Coz one half of your life, is ruined by your children. While another half, is ruined by your parents.
17 responses so far
different generations live different life. each have their own distinct challenges. let’s just do our best and pray for the best that we don’t cause troubles for our ancestors and descendants
sometimes we need to make a good communication in the family so that each other will notice each other. Since the early need for such guidance.
When the parents of any illness or other condition, as a child, we must always give attention to them. Our parents love of children is a love that is not irreplaceable levels.
Thanks for the article that reminds
jadi inget wkt papaku sakit. doh, bandelnya. hehhee..
wah, blogger sejati memang……
go international nih!
Parents are human too, they sometimes act more childish than their children. And truth might often come from children on the other way round. Kinda complicated, but that’s life. Just understand each other…
Tentu saja anak-anak selalu berusaha yang terbaik. Yang jadi masalah, orang tua sering tidak mau dikasih yang terbaik. Dan mereka tidak mau menentukan yang terbaik buat diri mereka sendiri.
Mungkin betul juga ini masalah miskomunikasi.
*agak miris kalau dengar telinga sebagai piranti komunikasi orang tua yang paling canggih pun sekarang mengalami kemunduran*
Mbak Fanny, tulisan ini memang diilhami oleh papanya Mbak Fanny..
Terima kasih, doain aku bisa go internasional ya..
salam sobat
apapun reaksi ayah dan ibu kita,,,
walaupun sudah diberitahu yang terbaik,ngga mau..
ya kita sebagai anaknya menuruti saja apa maunya.
tetap hormati dan sayangi mereka.
hm… yang terbaik menurut kita belum tentu mereka pikir itu yang terbaik untuk mereka,makanya kadang miskom.
btw, blog dikau yang blogspot masih aktip kah?
ym saya : quinie_blogger
dikau dateng ke gatheringnya arman kah?
Blog daku di blogspot masih aktif lah. Jangan kuatir..
grinning reading ur laz sentence
oh boy.. hope my parents won’t be like that…
anw.. when we were little long ago perhaps we are acting more or less the same like them, the difference is we must obey what our parents said
wah… emang sulit sih menasehati ortu
aku turut doakan agar bisa go internasional ya. amiin.
Lha memangnya orang tua nggak boleh patuh kepada nasehat anak ya?
Terima kasih ya buat doanya..
Please enjoy your single stage. Coz one half of your life, is ruined by your children. While another half, is ruined by your parents.
i really like the closing!!!!
Me too..
hm…punya pengalaman yang kurang lebih sama dengan postingan ini. saya sempat tinggal di rumah mertua. kebetulan nenek suami saya juga tinggal di situ.. God, sulit sekali rasanya untuk menjadi ‘benar’ bagi beliau.. rewel..
tapi begitu saya tinggal terpisah dengan beliau.. kadang terasa kangen juga..
Hehehe..biasanya keluhannya sih ibu mertua yang rewel. Tapi kalo nenek mertua yang ikutan rewel juga, itu lain, hehehe..
Yah, apa boleh buat. Sampai kapan pun, di mata orang tua, anak nggak akan pernah lebih benar ketimbang orang tuanya..